Jump to content

laljeterfan

Members
  • Content Count

    404
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Community Reputation

0 Neutral

About laljeterfan

  • Rank
    body guard
  1. lajeterfan :F_05BL17blowkiss: Somehow I missed this earlier. I AM in amazement- or confusion- not sure which? Thanks for the laugh! Thank you couchie.
  2. No it doesn't. I never said it does. And I don't feel that by simply pointing out that the lie existed- and in some cases is the jumping off point for the discomfort some of us (or maybe just me- I don't know anymore) have been feeling, is not to judge him for it. It is just to say that the reason this has been difficult to deal with is because I believed in something that was ultimately proven not to be true. I didn't conjure it up out of my own imagination- I believed it because he said it. It takes time (for me, clearly not for everyone) to work through thoughts and feelings about this. I
  3. No it doesn't. I never said it does. And I don't feel that by simply pointing out that the lie existed- and in some cases is the jumping off point for the discomfort some of us (or maybe just me- I don't know anymore) have been feeling, is not to judge him for it. It is just to say that the reason this has been difficult to deal with (for me) is because I believed in something that was ultimately proven not to be true. I didn't conjure it up out of my own imagination- I believed it because he said it. It takes time (for me, clearly not for everyone) to work through thoughts and feelings abou
  4. Well, since I'm the one who had the issue with the "he wasn't really lying" comments from yesterday, I assume that I am now the "bitch" in question? Man, that really sucks.
  5. I agree. This post said many of the same things I have been thinking, with many of the same reactions I have been having. I thought about asking last night if I could bring the post over, but I figured that was prohibited. (2nd bolded passage in the above post is mine) I know I said last night that I would stop trying to defend myself over this issue, but I guess I lied. I believed what I believed about his orientation because of what he, himself said. Had he refused to answer the question outright, or been vague about it from the beginning, I may have come to a different conclusion fa
  6. Thank you- I do understand what you are saying here. :F_05BL17blowkiss:
  7. Exactly- lying is a universal thing- we've all done it. It just didn't make sense to me that it shouldn't be considered a lie because of the circumstances- again, going way back to the original post that I quoted. But, since I'm obviously having a hard time making myself understood here, I'll stop trying. :F_05BL17blowkiss:
  8. Of course he had the right to answer the question any way he wanted to. Do I understand his reasons for giving the answer he did? Sure. If I was asked questions about my sex life and I didn't want to answer them truthfully, I'd probably lie too. And you know what- that would make me a liar- just like every other human being on this earth. I'm not trying to condemn him, here. The point I'm trying to make, and obviously not doing very well, is that he's not exempt from being called on the lie just because it was to a question that should have never been asked. ETA- Couchie-per your post below-
  9. But - any answer but NO would have been instantly construed as yes - so IMO a do-over would only entail not asking the damned question. I don't see a do-over as a luxury, but as, well, intrusive, because no one would have accepted - as we have seen - a refusal to answer as anything but yes. I think Jaymes has just explained precisely how I feel about this, at the OFC. But he did refuse to answer several other questions in the RS interview- the one about whether he was a virgin, and the one about masturbation. And he could have said that he felt the line of questioning was getting entirely
  10. I never felt entitled to an answer to the question, and personally find it incredibly intrusive. But the point is, he answered the question- and the answer he gave was widely accepted by many (most?) in the fandom, and in the long run it turned out not to be the truth. So, even though we may understand the reasons for him giving the answer he did, unless he came to his conclusions about his orientation after those first few interviews, ( and the timeline isn't really set in stone, so who knows?) his words were, in fact, a lie. In hindsight, it would have been better if he had not answered the
  11. play, I was obviously having a hard time dealing with things as well, but I enjoyed Jaymes' post, and didn't have a problem with anything she said. I didn't feel like I was one of the people she was talking about when she made her point, so I took no offense to it. I haven't read the thread, but it sure sounds like there were some there whose postings warranted that response from her. I don't share your objection to the order in which the announcements were made, but I'm trying to understand why it makes a difference to you. I think in a slightly superstitious way, Clay did not want to make a
  12. yep #1 yep #2 yep #3 I can understand that specific sentiment. I find it totally acceptable for some to embrace his sexual orientation, but have issues with Clay's dishonesty with the fandom for five plus years. Clay LIED. I am stating that he lied and doing so without prejudice. Do we really have the desire to go down the homophobic route without justification? I hope not. I hope this fandom finds the road to peace while embracing a calm approach to the struggles of some. yep #4 yep #5 Now, that cracked me up! Thanks to all those I quoted above who did the heavy li
  13. Thank you for this. As apparently the only one here who is struggling with this news, even though it has been in the back of my mind for at least the last couple of years, it is still a painful realization that the things I believed in were not true. I'm glad so many are showing their love and support. I wish I were there, but I'm not yet. I'm sorry, Clay. laljeterfan You aren't the only one that is struggling. I am guessing that most of the fans that are having trouble with this, just haven't posted. I was so upset last night that I was sure anything I said would come out wrong so I sai
  14. Thank you for this. As apparently the only one here who is struggling with this news, even though it has been in the back of my mind for at least the last couple of years, it is still a painful realization that the things I believed in were not true. I'm glad so many are showing their love and support. I wish I were there, but I'm not yet. I'm sorry, Clay.
×
×
  • Create New...